who is sitting in my school/computer/play room?? MY DAD! WTF!? He forgot my birthday and Killian's. He emailed me a week later apologizing for forgetting and saying he'd recognize Killian's in some way (oh, gee, thanks!). So, two weeks after the fact he shows up unannounced at my house while my in-laws are here.
Now, even though I have no intention of maintaining a father-daughter relationship with him, I would probably have let him in if I'd answered the door. I don't want to cause scene in front of the in-laws nor the children, but it would have been nice if my husband had warned me that my dad was here!
I love my dad. I really do. I hate his behavior. I was forced to deal with it most of my life and hide it and defend it and placate him. I WILL NOT continue to do that. I just have to figure out the most loving, but still honest, way to handle this stuff. I'd love to be able to sit down and talk to him and come to some resolution. Unfortunately, that's just not possible. I don't trust him with my kids...especially my girls (absolutely NOTHING sexual implied here) because he has such a volatile temper and seems much more likely to lash out at girls than boys...at least that's been my experience.
I was verbally and emotionally abused by my grandfather (dad's dad) and I refuse to subject my kids to that. I must be there...or Chris must be there...at all times. That makes for some very awkward gatherings. This sucks.
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